“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on but that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that are there. You’ve got to pick carefully.” Steve Jobs
Saying No for the Sake of Your Sanity (freedom and empowerment). It’s your number #1 superpower!
I admit I am a recovering people pleaser. I had to learn to say “no” and it wasn’t easy. I still struggle at times with this.
Over the years I wanted to be liked by everyone, but it didn’t work. Not even close. I had to overcome the fear of rejection, letting people down, and being un-liked.
I discovered by trying to do it all I was short changing my future self. I was so focused on helping everyone else that I had no time left for yours truly.
Here’s what I learned: If I make too commitments I won’t be able to keep them and time is precious. The best way to help someone is to “not do something for them” but to show them how and let them do it for themselves. And if timing is everything. A no today may become a yes sometime in the future.
Below are my 7 Ninja Tips for saying NO!
1. Be direct and don’t hesitate. You don’t want to lead someone on.
2. Don’t apologize, Be in your authentic power. Doing so gives others permission to do the same.
3. Don’t make up excuses—your honesty will be respected in the long run.
4. Remember that it is better to say no now than to be overwhelmed and overcommitted later.
5. Be thankful. Let them know how much you appreciate them asking.
6. Practice and rehearse saying no. Over time you will become more confident and it will become easier.
7. Realize you can’t please everyone. Trying to will make you feel guilty when you can’t follow through.
We have 120 days left until the end of the year. Tap into your superpowers and end the year strong.
What are your unique ways of saying “no”? Let us know in the comments.
XO, Wendi